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The day Adeline was born Jess and I waited over 4 hours for the records clerk at LDS Hopital to show up with Jess’ Voluntary Declaration of Paternity paperwork. This consists of 3 forms he needed to fill out along with a booklet making sure he understood his rights.
Of course Jess was more than willing to fill all this out, and even though the clerk was slow and a bit ditsy, we figured she had done hundreds of these and so whats the big deal. We fill it out, she notarizes, and it gets faxed/mailed to the state… Zip and we are done, right?
WRONG!!
One month after her birth I head down to the Records division to pick up her birth certificate. The woman behind the counter points out there is no father listed. In Shock and amazment, I ask why? She says sometimes it can take a few weeks to get the paternity info, or it will get overlooked. Then the conversation went something like this:

Woman: Are you married to the father?
Me: No.
Woman: Where did you deliver?
Me: LDS.
Woman: Ahh.
Me: Does this happen often?
Woman: Lets just say you are not the first unwed mother to have this problem with LDS.
Me: So they just don’t like it? They are apposed to kids out of wedlock?
Woman: I can’t say… lets just say this happens alot.

AAARRRRGGGGHHHH!! So. We call LDS hospital and talk to Casey, she says Oops, I do still have the paperwork. I will re-submit it. *I wanted to kill her* It only took me 4 phone calls just to get a hold of her to find this info out.

So, we give it 2 weeks to get everything processed and Jess heads down to the Records Division, since his name is on the birth certificate now, he can pick it up right? WRONG!
Why you may ask? Cause his name is STILL not on the birth certificate.

This pretty much set Jess off, he stormed down to LDS hospital, where he got the run around and eventually “There is nothing we can do, we are past the date we can submit anything, you will have to go to the state and apply for a new birth certificate.

@#$%@#$%@#$%!!!!!

Ok. Calm Down. We can do this.

@#$%@#$%@#$%!!!

So, today we both go down to the state department of record (cause Jess isn’t the daddy yet and has no legal rights to pick up or sign on my behalf) . It takes 2 hours and we have to go through everything we already went through at LDS hospital on the day she was born… AND we have to watch some stupid video to make sure Jess understands his legal rights. Are you F@#$’n kidding me??? He is here, willing to take responisbility for this child and you are making us Jump through hoops! no wonder there are so many moms on welfare.

I hate Utah.

by Michelle on August 21st, 2008 | RSS | trackback